Thursday, January 1, 2009

Do you ever think about this?

Have you ever thought about this?

For those of us that blog...we share our fears, our insecurities, our intimate details and even our happiest moments etc...but have you ever thought what you would do when you actually do get pregnant? I ask this because I have been pregnant before..yes, it was a long 2 years ago but I made the mistake of telling people because why would I have thought that something would go wrong? So now all us bloggers are in the same position...

We share everything we do with the blogger world, but if you are like me you have a lot of friends and some family that also not only read the blog but know exactly every move you make...what do you do when you get pregnant? Do you lie? Do you just make up stories on your blog?

Next time I actually get pregnant I really don't want to tell anyone because I don't want to have to make that dreaded call if something happens or I don't want to get that dreaded call from others if something happened. But how can I would have to be a real elaborate lie for 3 months...that's a long time to keep a pregnancy a secret especially when you have been trying for 2 years...UGH..

What will you do?


  1. I totally understand. I don't let anyone read my blog but those who are TTTC as well. I guess when the time comes and we are pregnant we have to decide if we want to tell others and have their support no matter what should happen.

    Happy New Year!

  2. I thought about that before I started blogging, because anyone I know can get to my blog. I decided that I will be totally open about it and see what happens. I think the support is worth the pain in having to make those calls. But, I can totally understand your fear.

  3. Its interesting that you mention this bc my friend just had her second mc. She has a 13 month old and just lost her pg at 11wks. So sad but she had told everyone so we were discussing if we would tell as soon as we are pg and I decided yes. I would want people to know about that life that was growing bc I know I would love it so much even in just a few weeks I couldnt stand it if people had no idea the greif I was going through. Thats just my perspective. I have never been through a mc so I can only say what I think I would want.

  4. I have been thinking about this as well and here is my 2 cents.

    I would tell. Why? Well, ok let me rephrase it, I will write about it on my blog. I want to write about it so others who are suffering through their first loss or their 5th loss can find me and know that someone else has walked in their shoes. I want to be able to help people who have gone through or are going through the same heartache as me.

    But, sometimes I think that's my problem. Some people think that I'm way to open about my Infertility. However, I'm huge on educating people. The more you know, the more you understand and the more you can help someone else along the way.

    Ok, that was long...sorry! But yes, I will blog about it.

  5. I think about this from time to time.

    For me, I will share it. For one, this is my space, and my thoughts. I will need to vent.

    For two, I think it helps people who are just beginning to know that there is hope.

    All of this said with the caveat that I may NEVER get pregnant. In that case, I'll share my adoption news! :-)